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How Do You Lead People Who Don’t Think the Way You Do?

How Do You Lead People Who Don’t Think the Way You Do?

by Zeca Ruiz | Feb 4, 2026 | Leadership Impact, Leadership Tips, Learning Transfer | 0 comments

How Do You Lead People Who Don’t Think the Way You Do?

Do you want to listen to this article? Click here to access our AI-generated audio version!

 

How do you lead people who do not think the way you do?

Leadership is a challenge, especially when you are not always aligned with your colleagues and employees. Our MDI Ambassador Zeca Ruiz proves that even resistance in your team can be a good thing. You want to know why and how to deal with this? Read this blog article to find out more!

First mistake: Don’t confuse alignment with unanimity

I want to start with a simple, and perhaps uncomfortable, provocation for many leaders. If everyone on your team thinks like you, something is not right.

For a long time, I believed that good leadership meant achieving quick alignment, minimal friction, and decisions flowing with little or no resistance. Today, I think exactly the opposite. Teams that are overly aligned, in the sense of agreement, tend to be fragile, predictable, and dangerous in the long run. One of the most common leadership traps is confusing alignment with unanimity.

Why You Seek Agreement

When we seek to make people think like us, it is usually not a strategic choice. It is about comfort. Agreement gives us a false sense of control, reduces our anxiety, and makes us feel validated. The problem is that it also removes the questioning that could prevent mistakes, poorly calibrated decisions, and strategic blind spots.

The truth is, you do not want people to think like you. You want them to challenge you. When they press the right buttons, the ones that test whether you truly believe in the direction you are proposing, they strengthen the decision, refine the path, and turn a personal idea into a collective commitment.

Strong contributors do not accept everything. They question, create tension, ask for clarity, and force the leader out of autopilot. And strong leaders can hold that space with presence, inner security, and genuine openness, without becoming defensive, without confusing discomfort with threat, and without silencing differences to preserve authority.

Why You Seek Agreement

This is exactly where a fundamental distinction comes in, one that deeply changed the way I lead and develop leaders. You do not need people to agree with the path. You need them to be committed to the shared destination. The role of leadership is not to create copies of yourself, but to sustain a direction that is clear enough to allow diversity of thought without losing coherence.

This Requires an Important Mindset Shift.

Questioning is not disloyalty. Thinking differently is not a lack of engagement. On the contrary, it is often a sign of responsibility, ownership, and genuine commitment to the outcome. In practice, what truly matters is ensuring that you and your team want the same outcomes, even if you take different routes to get there. That only happens when the leader stops trying to convince and starts translating the vision into the language, pace, and motivators of each team member.

People do not engage with your vision. They engage when they can see the vision through their own motivators and their own language. Now, moving into the practical side, here are a few DOs and DON’Ts that make a real difference in everyday leadership.

DOs

  • Align on the why before discussing the how.
  • Explicitly invite dissent in important decisions.
  • Publicly recognize those who challenge you with respect and constructive intent.

DON’Ts

  • Do not confuse questioning with a lack of commitment.
  • Do not demand alignment of form when alignment of intention is what truly matters.
  • Do not label people who think differently as difficult.

Putting Gen Z Into Context

How to Create Real Commitment

In addition, I like to work with a simple set of questions that help reveal motivators and create real commitment.

  • What makes you genuinely care about this project?
  • What would need to happen for you to commit even more?
  • What are you seeing here that I might not be seeing?
  • What would you regret not saying now if things went wrong later?

These questions do something powerful. They move a person from executor to co-creator. And when someone feels like a co-creator, the level of commitment changes completely.

Emotional Maturity All the Way

At the end of the day, leading people who do not think like you is less about management and more about emotional maturity. It is about holding tension without needing to win. It is about sustaining a direction that is clear enough for different voices to contribute without diluting meaning.

Perhaps the most noble role of leadership is not to create loyal followers, but to create spaces where different people can commit to something greater than themselves.

So, Here is the Final Reflection.

Who on your team truly challenges you today?
And when that happens, do you respond with defensiveness or with curiosity?

Zeca Ruiz

Zeca Ruiz

Leadership Trainer and Consultant

Zeca Ruiz is a Leadership Trainer, Facilitator and Consultant in Human and Organizational Development. He works in leadership development across Latin America and Europe, with experience in cultural transformation processes, team dynamics and the integration of systemic methodologies into corporate practice. He is a specialist in complex thinking, a generative coach and an integrative therapist, working at the intersection between human behavior, learning and the evolution of systems. He leads trainings, talks and development programs that combine depth, clarity and practical application to prepare people and organizations for high complexity environments.

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Generation Z isn’t the Problem but Our System is

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by Zeca Ruiz | Dec 3, 2025 | Impuls series, International leadership development, Leadership in the digital transformation | 0 comments

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Generation Z isn’t the Problem, but Our System is

The discomfort we feel in relation to them reveals that something in us needs to change, because when an entire generation steps away from the same path, perhaps it is not the generation that is lost, but the path itself that is poorly designed.

Zeca is our MDI Trainer based in Latin America and an expert on generational cooperation. This blog article is the first part of a series – read below to find out what he thinks about the youngest generation in the workforce, Generation Z, and let’s start a discussion on LinkedIn!

Today, in leadership conversations, it has almost become a mantra to say that “young people from Generation Z are lost and we cannot expect much from them.”

As a corporate trainer I repeatedly hear complaints or questions that express how difficult it has been for us to relate to this generation.

GenZ – The Useless Generation?

Many leaders describe this generation as immature, fragile, hard to manage, not very committed, rebellious or even disrespectful. And this narrative has become so common that it starts to sound like an absolute truth.

We have reached a point where some companies have simply stopped hiring apprentices from this generation. They have turned their attention to professionals over fifty who, even at the end of their careers, still fit the current ways of working.

As the good contrarian I like to be, I want to bring up a point that only a minority takes the time to investigate.

Reflect, don’t judge!

Reflect, don’t judge!

When we evaluate a behavior only through the lens of the discomfort it causes us, we completely lose the ability to understand its function and existential role.

In the paradigm of complexity, we understand that subjectivity is an inseparable part of the system, including the observer, and that every behavior carries an internal logic that only reveals itself when we examine the context that produces it, not just the effect it generates in us.

It is like judging a book only by its cover. What we feel when we look at the cover, without knowing the real content, says much more about us than about the book.

In the same way, when we look at Gen Z, we do not see only who they are and what they do, we also see the contrast between the Generation Z way of existing and the way we were formed, our beliefs, our world models and the scale we learned to use to measure behavior, ours and others.

And if both the environment has shaped Gen Z and has also shaped the way we judge them, then we need to change the lens of this observation and step away from unilateral judgment.

We need to start asking ourselves, why are they like this, what are these behaviors responding to, which structures taught this generation to act the way it does and what role these responses are playing in today’s society.

Putting Gen Z Into Context

If we look at this Gen Z phenomenon from a systemic perspective, and not a reactive one, it becomes clear that no generation collectively “wakes up” more fragile, more rebellious or more difficult simply by choice.

Every behavior is always a reflection of the environment, always a condition inherent to the context, an adaptive response to specific conditions that are present.

And for me, based on the topics I explore and study, the behavioral expression of Generation Z is not pointing to their weakness, as we like to assume. It is pointing to the deep obsolescence of the system around them.

Every generation is an adaptive response to the environment it inherits from the previous one and Gen Z is no exception. They are a response to a world that has changed faster than organizations have been capable of following.

And let me be clear about something.

I am not here to idealize Gen Z or place them on any pedestal, I also see they carry traits that challenge them deeply, regardless of the system they inhabit.

They can be anxious, impatient, prematurely exhausted, emotionally overwhelmed, and often unprepared to sustain prolonged discomfort. These are real characteristics that demand development, maturity and guidance.

But acknowledging their difficulties does not contradict what I am saying, it actually reinforces it. Because the turning point comes when we stop looking only at what they lack and start recognizing how much of our own worldview, our expectations and our outdated structures shape the very behaviors we criticize.

The moment we take responsibility for the lens through which we see them, we finally create the conditions for growth on both sides.

Putting Gen Z Into Context

Why is Gen Z like this? (before labeling, we must contextualize and understand)

Before making any judgment, it is worth looking at this generation with analytical sobriety and recognizing the quality of their most striking traits, such as their authenticity, their search for meaning, their intolerance for incoherence, their rejection of rigid hierarchies, their heightened emotional sensitivity, their digital fluency and their constant questioning.

Born into the digital age, members of Generation Z arrive in the workplace with very clear expectations for agility, transparency and innovation.

And because they often bring an entrepreneurial and autonomy driven mindset, they tend to challenge traditional paradigms and seek more horizontal structures, with authentic and coherent leadership.

Seeing the Bigger Picture

These elements are not isolated characteristics, they are expressions of a way of existing that was shaped by an environment radically different from the one that structured the ways of the previous generations.

And although these traits are sometimes interpreted as opposition to earlier generations, or as the result of having had too many comforts which would have weakened their capacity for effort and discipline, they are actually a very interesting starting point for deeper, contextual investigation.

After all, as always happens in the transition between generations, these ways of behaving are adaptive responses to conditions that simply did not exist before.

So the invitation here is to broaden our perspective and look beyond isolated behavior. It is to observe the scenario that shaped this generation, the environment and the conditions that gave rise to each trait and to each way that Gen Z responds to the world.

Conclusion

Gen Z isn’t a sign of decline—they’re a sign that our systems haven’t kept pace. Their behavior points to the gaps in how we lead, organize and define work. When we stop labeling and start listening, we see that their traits aren’t flaws but responses to a world that changed faster than our structures did.

The real question isn’t what’s wrong with Gen Z, but what their reactions reveal about the environment we built. Once we shift the lens, it becomes clear: Generation Z isn’t the problem. They’re the diagnosis. The work ahead lies with us.

Zeca Ruiz

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